Today was going to be my post on homemade chicken noodle soup...but my mind is going and that ain't gonna happen today.
I have felt truly blessed with doing this blog. I have had the most fabulous features, and wonderful comments, more than I could of imagined. Just over the past couple weeks Better After, The DIY Showoff, Babble, Full House, Tip Junkie, La Factoria Plastica, and Facilisimo, featured me and I was truly honored. These are fellow bloggers I that admire and have put out the effort of promoting other blogs/bloggers and projects.
And then there is another. A totally different blog that I truly adore, and always will. Apartment Therapy, I heart them. And yesterday, late afternoon, they featured our 35th Street Kitchen, and to say that I was floored is completely true. Just about dropped my phone...
Then I read the comments....oh, the comments. I am all about constructive criticism and suggestions, but this was just harsh. I am TOTALLY a non-confrentational person, like big time. I just nod and absorb. Nod and Absorb... I despise arguing.
I read a few, out loud to another friend and thought, wow...but we agreed to possibly let it slide. Evidently the commenters and myself are on different wave lengths here. I don't know what happened to me next, maybe it was the carpool lane from picking up the offspring or the lack-there-of caffeine and/or sugar, but I walked in and refreshed the comments, only to find I had been verbally thrown up on. Wow...like a whole 24 hour stomach bug...yup, it was bad.
Now, don't get me wrong, I have received bad comments before, my fair share, and I just don't reply unless it is a sensible question on a product or how to. But this is different. I began to figure out that no one had really read my post, they just commented off of the three pictures Apartment Therapy posted. Apartment Therapy said in the post 'The result of this makeover is dramatic, and while it may not be a dream kitchen, it shows that a small budget and a willingness to work hard can rescue any room from terminal drabness', so, they got it. But, evidently the others didn't read this and just commented.
Needless to say, I sat down and basically wrote the encyclopedia britannica, volumes I, II & III and hit the publish button. I felt the need to explain. I probably shouldn't of and of course after I submitted it, I paced like a new father in the waiting room, probably wearing my carpet down way too much and then came back to refresh after two or so minutes. It felt like hours...
I had some love but then came to several comments where I received hate about my font on my blog. Ouch...I know it's hard to read, I really do. I have been meaning to change it, but I started working with a fabulous gal on a whole new, different design. So I didn't want to mess with it and just install a new design. Guess I wasn't expecting to be bashed on font, yowza...
I was planning on starting my posts on the next house I was going to show that we flipped, but I started having cold feet this afternoon. I guess I am just one that I only comment if I like it and leave it alone if it's not my style. Everyone I have come across in 'blogland' is all about helping each other, promoting everyone else and sincerely helpful. Maybe I just hit a bad patch...
I got in the car to drop off everyone to all their activities, I was crazy happy Breaking Benjamin was on. It let me pound out my thoughts on the steering wheel, then I switched to The Avett Brothers and collected my thoughts...Man, music is my therapy.
I know everything will NOT go smooth, after all I am totally putting myself out there on the www for other people to see. Maybe I shouldn't be so vulnerable? But after reading House of Hepworths battle on facebook the other day, I felt the need to 'explain' myself. I probably should of been the bigger person (like I tell the offspring) and left it alone...
I am in NO way hating on Apartment Therapy, I love them and what they do, all of their inspirations. Guess I was just blindsided on this?
Soooo, here is my question to you. What's your norm? How do you respond when someone feels the need to express their opinion? Or do you even reply?
Sorry to verbally barf on you and whine about it, promise it won't happen....for a while :). Just curious
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